Three things to know about me:
I’m adopted and have an adopted daughter, so my thoughts on families don’t always follow a straight line and my views on how families form continues to evolve. In 2019 I found my biological parents. One is deceased and the other is alive. My father has welcomed me into his life and family, which has been an identity journey that I’m slowly processing. This discovery also revealed that I’m half Puerto Rican and come from a line of feisty, tough, beautiful Latina women. The females in my adoptive family are also strong women, so I have no excuses. I’m protecting the privacy of both sides of my biological family, but it’s also important to me that I write honestly about adoption, loss, identity, birth families and women during the Baby Scoop Era.
I also run a nonprofit, Rising Village, that helps refugee and immigrant women assimilate and earn income through the creation of beautiful handmade products. I find that my story often intertwines with the stories of the women in our program, and so I carefully tell theirs with the hope that we can all learn how to be better neighbors.
My family and I live in a 90-year-old house that we rescued from the depths of despair in Tulsa’s oldest platted neighborhood near our vibrant downtown. I find good material to write about as we continue to settle, purge, downsize and simplify our lifestyle. I’ve always been a little obsessed with houses, the making of a home, and how we are all in need of a place and people who will allow our souls to breathe deeply.
When I look around, it seems that all of us – whether we are children, parents, adoptees, refugees or the people we pass on a given day – are simply trying our best to get back to a place that feels like home. My writing is centered on finding home, and for each of us that is a personal and particular journey. I’m sharing mine as best I can, and I hope you will share yours too. I welcome comments and emails from fellow travelers who desire respectful and thoughtful conversation and the opportunity to learn from one another.